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5 Rules to Live by in 2021

  I can't remember a day in my life when politicians and news media weren't trying to tell us all that the end of was coming, soon, and we would all die of so many horrible things if we did not act soon. NEW FLASH: The world has always been full of both wonderful and horrible events. There has never been such a thing as "the good old days." These people who are trying to keep you in a panic really only do so because they crave power and money. Most of what they are telling you is not true. It is true that 2020 sucked more than most years. But as a species humans have been through much worse than anything you and I have seen in  our lifetimes. If we have been through far worse than this then we will do just fine. 2021 does not have to suck for everyone on the planet. You can have a great year. First, I would like to suggest turning off most of the junk that is called "news" and just paying attention to the few things that really matter. This will help you foc

What Older Men Want Young Men to Know about Love

  Valentine’s Day is coming, and if popular culture is to be believed, Valentine’s Day causes problems for men. TV shows, comic strips and jokes show men desperately trying to find the right gift for their partners — and sometimes woefully missing the mark. That got me thinking about the hundreds of older men I’ve interviewed about love, relationships and marriage. They’ve been through every romantic problem and relationship conundrum imaginable — and have managed to stay married for a half century or more. The question hit me: If we got all of them into one room in front of a group of men in their 20s and 30s, what would they say? What lessons have they learned that they would pass on to younger versions of themselves? Going back over the data, I distilled three things that old guys would like to pass on to young guys. Think of it as your future self, giving you advice on love (useful for Valentine’s Day and beyond). 1. Start Talking Sometimes in my interviews, I encountered men whom